AUTISM OR POOR PARENTING SKILLS

[Alison J Stevens]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5370241/Parents-want-childr...

So my long term Friend J, had to put her Son then 13 into Care, she had very little support from her Adopters.

And she found out that Her Birth Mother had died many Years ago.

JO was always doing bizare things when we were out, and i think up until the age of 5 he was always in a pushchair.

JO, antic was sitting in the middle of the pathway and would not move.

When we were out JO was always mute, but when My Friend used to call me, i could always hear JO talking, in fact his speech was very clear,and all could be understood, he could swear like a trooper. even though my Friend did not swear.

One night i offered to look after JO,J was having some kind of surgery and would be in Hospital for the whole day.

I finished work and went up to J house, Jo had already arrived home from School, i would be looking after him the next day, so i stayed the night with them.

The School bus would arrive and fetch JO at 8.30am,

I tried to get JO to put his socks and shoes on, to save time, and he just got very aggressive shouting and swearing at me.

So the theory of the Social Worker, was that JO bizarre behavior was put down to J poor Parenting skills , even though CAHMS  had diagnosed him with an Autism spectrum disorder.

The door knocked and i realized that the Escort had come to collect JO and put him on the bus and escort him to school,,

As soon has the door bell rang, JO managed to put his shoes and socks on perfectly, 

It was brought to My own attention that it was a very large change of routine, for JO, in the fact that i was looking after him, and that he always chose to put his shoes and socks on, at the same time when the escort rang the door bell every day.

I was the one that was making issues worse by trying to put JO Shoes and socks on before the door bell rang.

We all used to go and watch the DIVALI Fireworks, on the Golden Mile in Leicester, JO used to love them.

Somehow with all the crowds JO was missing, we were both out of my mind with worry, i think i started to cry.

Within 5 minutes JO came back to us, without a care in the world. and seemed to know where he was better than J and Myself.

Most nights JO would become very active, and shouting, poor J hardly had any sleep.

One night J awoke to find her Son, taking the ceiling light to pieces.very dangerous.

All the Social Worker used to do was put my Friend through a bundle of  criticism , she tried to do the best for her Son., but it was never good enough in the eyes of the Social Worker, J became very tired and depressed and it was obvious she needed some kind of respite..

Jo would never ever talk at school, even though i told them he was talking normally when he was at home.

It was decided that JO  would be placed with Respite Foster Carers for a few days, but due to the change of routine JO was very stressed and got up to trashing their house, so that did not go down to well.

The next respite JO would be placed in a children's home for a week.i think he used to get out of bed and try and wreck the Home.

JO behavior was getting worse every day, even though he seemed to behaving better at School.

Three or 5 times J found her Son dismantling the light fittings in the ceiling.

No offer of help by the Social Worker, J was told that because she overslept at night, and did not sit and watch over J tenfold at night, JO was placed on a Child Protection Plan, he was already on a Children in need plan.

Three times a week later J awoke to find her son dismantling skirting board electric plugs, but the funny thing was he could put them back together perfectly.

The sad thing was because J was at risk of killing himself by electrocution, and putting the next door neighbor at risk, as

well,and the risk to everybody in the block, and the fear being prosecuted for Manslaughter, J decided to put JO into voluntary care.

JO must of got through at least 10 Foster Placements in the first few weeks, he was then placed into Residential Care, on a full care order.

The sad story is that J was stopped from Seeing her Son, REASON STATED POOR PARENTING SCHOOLS, THE SOCIAL WORKER SAID THAT THE BOY DID NOT SUFFER FROM AN AUTISTIC RELATED DISORDERS, EVEN THOUGH HE HAD BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH AUTISM.

JO must be in his early 20s by now. i have unfortunately lost track of his MUM.